{"id":136153,"date":"2018-04-27T20:31:17","date_gmt":"2018-04-28T02:31:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/hill-kleerup.org\/blog\/?p=136153"},"modified":"2018-04-28T00:13:00","modified_gmt":"2018-04-28T06:13:00","slug":"presenting-my-son-james","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hill-kleerup.org\/blog\/2018\/04\/27\/presenting-my-son-james.html","title":{"rendered":"Presenting my son, James"},"content":{"rendered":"

I mention +<\/span>James Hill<\/a><\/span> coming out as my transmale son, primarily because over the past seventeen-going-on-eighteen years I’ve presented him as my daughter, Katherine. Given that I’ve talked about her (him) a lot over the past years in social media, if I just changed pronouns and names there are some folk out there who would scratch their heads and ask questions. And since it’s something I’m not out to hide,<\/i> I thought I’d just be up-front about the matter.<\/p>\n

While this has been James’ identity to himself and his parents and close friends for the past few years — a very considered, researched, and thoughtful recognition and understanding of who he is — it’s been a more deliberate process outside those circles. In the past months and weeks he’s come out to his grandparents and close family friends, he was open to the college he applied to, and he’s talked with his uncles\/aunts and cousins, which covered all the people he felt he wanted to personally let know about it.<\/p>\n

(For the record, the reactions from family have all been supportive, and I’ve been stunned by how cool his peers at school have been.)<\/p>\n

At this point, he’s given permission for people to talk about it. So, here we are.<\/p>\n

Pragmatically, its good timing; as he’s heading off to college in the fall, it’s an ideal time to establish his new identity in his new circles. Sort of like everyone<\/i> does when they head off to college.<\/p>\n

Anyway, hopefully this will forestall any confusion about future references I make to him. He’s our son. We love him.<\/p>\n

In the words of that great fabulist philosopher, Stan Lee: ‘Nuff Said.<\/p>\n

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