{"id":23462,"date":"2011-11-05T11:50:42","date_gmt":"2011-11-05T17:50:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/hill-kleerup.org\/blog\/2011\/11\/05\/sex-happens.html"},"modified":"2011-11-05T12:31:47","modified_gmt":"2011-11-05T18:31:47","slug":"sex-happens","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hill-kleerup.org\/blog\/2011\/11\/05\/sex-happens.html","title":{"rendered":"Sex happens"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I am not sanguine about my daughter becoming sexually active.  I presume (well, expect &#8212; indeed, ultimately, hope) it will happen sooner or later, but I&#39;m sure I will be less enthused about it than she is.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, the same is true of alcohol.  And, for that matter, of driving.  In each case, I know it will happen, and the best I can hope for is to teach her good decision-making skills to assist when she does do it, and keep communicating about it so that when it does happen (or is going to happen), we know about it and can assist, support, advise, or whatever.<\/p>\n<p>What I do know is that trying to FORBID it, trying to keep it from situationally being possible, trying to use shame and anger and threats and subterfuge to convince her to avoid it, will not only be futile, but will cause their own problems for her and for us.<\/p>\n<p>So, yeah, I&#39;ll make jokes about my shotgun collection and all, but that&#39;s what they are, jokes.  <\/p>\n<p>But &#8230; um &#8230; not for a few more years, Kitten, okay? #ddtb<\/p>\n<p style='clear:both;'>\n<p style='margin-bottom:5px;'><strong>Embedded Link<\/strong><\/p>\n<div style='height:120px;width:120px;overflow:hidden;float:left;margin-top:0px;padding-top:0px;margin-right:10px;vertical-align:top;text-align:center;clear:both;'>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img style='max-width:none;' src='http:\/\/images0-focus-opensocial.googleusercontent.com\/gadgets\/proxy?container=focus&#038;gadget=a&#038;resize_h=100&#038;url=http%3A%2F%2Fmedia.salon.com%2F2011%2F10%2Fnot-under-my-roof-150x150.jpg' border='0' \/>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n<p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a href='http:\/\/www.salon.com\/2011\/10\/30\/solving_americas_teen_sex_problem\/'>Solving America\u2019s teen sex problem<\/a><br \/>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tThe Dutch have dramatically reduced adolescent pregnancies, abortions and STDs. What do they know that we don&#39;t?\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/p>\n<p style='clear:both;'>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I am not sanguine about my daughter becoming sexually active. I presume (well, expect &#8212; indeed, ultimately, hope) it will happen sooner or later, but I&#39;m sure I will be less enthused about it than she is. On the other hand, the same is true of alcohol. And, for that matter, of driving. 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