So I’m talking to someone on the phone at work this afternoon. And I happen to know she is on the Hit List, to be invited to resign (with, I must add, a generous severence package) next week as part of our current round of IT reorgs.<\/p>\n
And, of couse, since she knows about some of the structural changes in my department, she asks how I’m feeling about it. And I sort of smile and nod and talk about opportunities from change, and change being a constant, and about that copy of Who Moved My Cheese?<\/i> I got a year or two ago. All very sincere and heartfelt, but also sort of, “Jeez, I really don’t want to talk about this with her, because I know she’s going to ask –“<\/p>\n
“So, anything I should know about in all of this?”<\/p>\n
I know what she’s asking. Do I know about whether her position is in danger? <\/p>\n
I feel a certain amount of responsibility toward this person. I was involved in hiring her. I managed her at one point, and have continued to work with her. We are, if not friends, then certainly comrades-in-arms. I like her. And it doesn’t help that I think it’s unfair that she’s on the Hit List. Indeed, my opinion was asked, and I helped fight for her and helped fight to make sure she was treated right when she’s let go.<\/p>\n
But …<\/p>\n
I have been given a confidence in my knowledge of this person’s impending termination. If I betray that confidence, I am doing a disservice to other people who I respect, and who have trusted me. <\/p>\n
I’m a manager (at least at the moment). I have responsibilities to others. I also have responsibilities to the company. I don’t think I’m harming her in not saying anything. Telling her isn’t going to help her. Not really. No prospects for job interviews over the holidays, and not a good thing to have hanging over one during such a time anyway. <\/p>\n
And maybe, just maybe, I’m a bit scared of torquing off someone, of putting my own ass at risk. Or maybe I just don’t want to be the one to break the news to her, since it’s not a decision I can defend.<\/p>\n
“No. I don’t know anything concrete.”<\/p>\n
And I don’t. There may be a change in plans. Nothing official has been announced, after all. And if it happens, it might be Monday. It might be in a month. Or it might never happen.<\/p>\n
I think I did the right thing. I do. But I’m not very happy about it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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