{"id":30666,"date":"2012-10-17T21:31:15","date_gmt":"2012-10-18T03:31:15","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/hill-kleerup.org\/blog\/2012\/10\/17\/parentteacher-conferences.html"},"modified":"2012-10-18T09:23:56","modified_gmt":"2012-10-18T15:23:56","slug":"parentteacher-conferences","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/hill-kleerup.org\/blog\/2012\/10\/17\/parentteacher-conferences.html","title":{"rendered":"Parent\/Teacher Conferences"},"content":{"rendered":"

Something really remarkable\u00a0happened this year with Kay's P\/T conferences for the first quarter.<\/p>\n

She's always gotten good grades and \u00a0reasonable praise from her teachers.\u00a0<\/p>\n

This quarter was different.<\/p>\n

…<\/p>\n

Instead of praise, we got …<\/p>\n

… well …<\/p>\n

… effusive<\/i> praise.<\/p>\n

Really. Every teacher talked on at length\u00a0about how responsible Kay was, how diligent a student, how good at asking questions, how interested in making sure all her assignments were in, how likable she was, how helpful, all that jazz. \u00a0Respectful. Nice. \u00a0And, pretty much universally, "I wish all my students were like her."<\/p>\n

It was almost a bit … daunting. \u00a0I don't think either of us ever got that kind of rave reviews. Not that we were bad students, but, I mean …\u00a0<\/p>\n

And of course, we're very proud and appreciative and are telling her all of that, and it's all very keen. \u00a0And, of course, all of which means, as she approaches the midpoint of her 12th year of age \u00a0….<\/p>\n

a. We actually have a very special girl who's been brought up well and will turn out to be a happy, fulfilled, responsible adult.<\/p>\n

b. We've over-instilled our own internalized shame-driven stress to overachieve and meet the expectations of our superiors to gain their praise and validation, and thus she'll live in neurotic unhappiness for the rest of her life.<\/p>\n

c. In 2-9 months an internal switch will flip and she'll turn into Slacker-Goth-Slouchy-Uncontrollable Wild Child, rejecting all that we've taught her, getting piercings in provocative places, and counter-scripting for the next three decades against \u00a0the System and the Parents and the Man.<\/p>\n

I'm really hoping it's (a), to be honest.<\/p>\n

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