+Mary Oswell has been posting some very good … "lessons learned," let's call them, that she and her husband have been going through since her mother-in-law's death, regarding the practical matters of paperwork and estate planning (or the consequences of the lack thereof) and all the things that those who survive you will need to take care of once you've shrugged off this mortal coil and joined the bleedin' Choir Invisible.
It's good stuff, informative stuff, and stuff worth discussing with your own parents, as well as considering about yourself.
(Yes, Mom, this means we'll probably be having a discussion about this whilst you're visiting this weekend.)
Follow-ups from #1 below at http://www.chez-oswell.org/blog/2012/08/death-101-lesson-2/ and http://www.chez-oswell.org/blog/2012/08/death-101-lesson-3/
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Death 101 – Lesson 1 — Chez Oswell
Introduction So just to get this out of the way up front – these posts are not about dying in a metaphorical sense. God, no god, afterlife, reincarnation not the focus of my words. This is about the n…
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Dave…
Hint, hint, talk your parents into making your brother or someone else the Estates Personal Rep. 🙂
Being the Personal Rep is a lot of work, and can only be made harder by not being in the same city/state as the deceased.
Being ‘hired’ by Stan to do the grunt work, I have so far put in over 20 hours with bills, creditors, and house inventory (which is maybe half done). And those are just the ones that I have kept track of. 5 or 10 minutes here and there is hard to remember to write down.
New laws may have made dealing with an estate easier since many things do not have to be done in court, but the overall list of things to be done hasn’t shrunk much.
And thanks for the ping.
It’s good stuff — and while Margie’s folks have indicated they’re reading, I wanted to give an indirect ping to my own. Though given my folks’ having to deal with my Nona’s estate, I’m sure they’re aware of some of the issues (and hopefully have been acting responsibly in their own domains).
From what I’ve seen of what you’ve gone through, Mary, I agree that the Personal Rep (Newspeak for “Executor”) really is better being local, for a wide array of reasons.