If you explain things to kids, you see, then they don't learn to Simply Obey Parents Because God Says So (and to Simply Obey God, Too). So don't explain, command. Then, when they're adults, they won't understand the reasons for rules they are given (by governments, preachers, etc.), just that They Must Obey Them. Yay!
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Asking questions is a sign of both curiosity and intelligence, and is healthy trait for all ages. My two younger boys, aged five and eleven, constantly ask questions, want explanations and beg for rational and logical arguments. While I, at times, find it exasperating I am pleased that they question pat answers, even mine. I am confident that they will be able to be thoughtful and independently minded adults and not unquestioning automatons.
Makes perfect sense. Why children are being beaten in Christian homes. It is all about teaching them to obey because God loves them. Fucking horrid parents. Sadly a lot of those children will continue this abuse when they become parents, because they have been taught never to think for themselves.
+Jamie Jordan This is horrible abuse. Unquestioning obedience might be acceptable in the military, and even then it has its limitations, but not among families. No child should ever be beaten or spanked or humiliated, etc; I can't imagine why it would ever be necessary. Children are individuals and persons in their own right.
+Perry J. Greenbaum could not agree more.
+Jamie Jordan I think beating of children takes place in non-Christian homes (and does not take place in all Christian homes). It is true there is a particular branch of Christianity that favors this kind of authoritarian attitude (OBEY!), and I would suspect they would be more likely to beat their children.
The whole idea of mindless obedience is not unique to religious. But I would dare say, from my own personal observations, seems much more prevalent in Christian homes. Absolute obedience "because I (or god) say so" is an extremely unhealthy want raise children.
I believe in education in the home as well as school. Kids should always be given REASONS for behaviors. (…as well as reasons for punishments, including spankings. Sorry +Perry J. Greenbaum. I believe in corporal punishment: NOT BEATINGS or slapping in the face, but spankings. Once they are 5 or 6, it doesn't do any good to spank anyway.)
Newton saw "further than other men" because he "stood upon the shoulders of giants". I think staying in the ditch might be the wrong approach.
+Randy Patton We can agree to disagree on this point; many support your view.
+Randy Patton hitting a child is truly evil. Personally, I think if you are not intelligent enough to raise a child without physical abuse you should not have a child.
+Jamie Jordan you know, I could have lived all day without your making this personal. Everyone has an opinion on this subject, and a great many support my view, including behavioral psychologists. It has nothing to do with being "evil" or being "unintelligent." I can say that YOU are being very judgmental, and intolerant of opinions that don't fall in with yours.
Punishment is for the benefit of a child's character. It teaches CONSEQUENCES at an early age when "talk" is not necessarily a valid option. As I said above, after a child reaches a certain age, and can follow a logical conversation, spanking is not beneficial. My personal experience is that kids don't need corporal punishment often if they are trained from an early age in recognizing the inevitability of consequences. (By the way, I was told in later years that a "lecture" from me was much worse than a "spanking" could ever be. I can see how that would be very true. They avoided a "sit-down" at all costs.)
Yes, I am intolerant of people who abuse others, especially the weakest, and those they are charged with protecting. And, no, it is not personal. It is anyone who abuses children, not just you, so you, sir, are not a victim, but nice try.
+Jamie Jordan no one was abused. A spanking is not abuse. You will shortly be blocked. Nice try.