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Things are a scosh crazy right now

I’m not quite sure why. Work has been very busy — reports and system go-lives and personnel issues and a new fiscal year kicking off. Home, too, has had all…

I’m not quite sure why. Work has been very busy — reports and system go-lives and personnel issues and a new fiscal year kicking off. Home, too, has had all sorts of events going on. I’m doing this gaming Lexicon that usually ends up taking a lot more time than “write 500 words” sounds like it should take. There’s karate.  There’s City of Heroes play, complete with Zombie Apocalypse (which seems to be the MMO theme this year). There’s karate. There’s various errands and housekeeping and pumpkin-carving and …

There don’t seem to be enough hours in the day.

I keep making lists of things that need doing, and if I get to about a quarter of them, that seems like a good day. Bills to pay, Thankgivings to send invites for, yards to pay attention to, rooms to tidy up. Too many things. *sigh*

So I apologize for the dearth of posting here. I actually have a ton of links I want to throw out there before the election in A WEEK renders them moot (some non-political posts, too). I am, in fact, looking very much forward to the election, whatever the outcome (which is an easy thing to say when I’m pretty sure the outcome is going to be what I want), since it will reduce some of the election-news-following-frenzy that’s been a good chunk of my online life the last month.

But let it be noted that, even as frenzied as things are, and even this late in the evening, I do want to wish my lovely (and ever-patient) wife a Happy Birthday. Kiss-kiss, love!

 

It’s God’s purpose, so it’s my purpose, so it should be your purpose, too!

Mike Huckabee seems like a pretty pleasant guy, and I’d invite him over for dinner at the drop of a hat. That said, he should stop screwing around in…

Mike Huckabee seems like a pretty pleasant guy, and I’d invite him over for dinner at the drop of a hat. That said, he should stop screwing around in the affairs, so to speak, of other states.

God created marriage, Huckabee says : Local News : Ventura County Star 

Changing the definition of marriage would be like making Mona Lisa blond or touching up her smile, former presidential candidate Mike Huckabee said Sunday morning in Newbury Park.

The former Arkansas governor and Southern Baptist preacher spoke from the pulpit of Calvary Chapel Thousand Oaks in two services focused on Proposition 8, a state constitutional amendment to ban gay marriage. He told about 1,000 people that marriage was created and defined by God, just as the Mona Lisa was created by Leonardo da Vinci. “God doesn’t want me to take my brush and paint over his masterpiece,” he said.

God created mountains. Is Gov. Huckabee against strip mining? Wait, that’s a different discussion.

Huckabee, 53, spoke and played his bass guitar at Calvary Chapel in March not long after conceding the Republican nomination to Sen. John McCain, R-Ariz. He said he returned to address Proposition 8 because its ramifications reach way beyond California.

[…] Dressed in a dark suit coat and a pink shirt, he said he didn’t come to confront or oppose gay people, rather to urge people to do a better job of explaining what marriage represents.

“The purpose of marriage is not for you to be happy,” Huckabee said. “The purpose of marriage is so God can teach us how to love, like he loves us.”

And, of course, gay couples can’t be taught to love each other. Not really. Not the way Mike Huckabee God intends them to, which obviously involves sex stuff … but, wait, that’s not how God loves us (that’s more Zeus than Yahweh, it seems to me) … so obviously I’m confused.

But does that mean that people should only be allowed to be married if they’re in it to learn how to love? Not for happiness, not for money, not for anything short of love? Should we have them take an oath to that effect before we issue a marriage certificate? Ought we to review past and present marriages to see whether they are about love, and, if not, pass a constitutional amendment invalidating them?

Do tell us more, Gov. Huckabee.

Help! Help! I’m being oppressed!”

Heterosexuals across California — or least one couple in Sacramento — are outraged — OUTRAGED! — by how the Homosexual Agendaists are trampling on their Sacred and Inalienable Rights!…

Heterosexuals across California — or least one couple in Sacramento — are outraged — OUTRAGED! — by how the Homosexual Agendaists are trampling on their Sacred and Inalienable Rights!

How is this happening? Are they being forbidden to marry each other? Are they being told that their love is wrong, unnatural, subject to criminal penalties? Are they being denied the right to get married in a religious ceremony in their own church?

No, it’s something worse … far worse … they aren’t being called “bride” and “groom” on their state wedding license application. Egads!

Last month, Rachel Bird exchanged vows with Gideon Codding in a church wedding in front of family and friends. As far as Bird is concerned, she is a bride. To the state of California, however, she is either “Party A” or “Party B.”

Those are the terms that have replaced “bride” and “groom” on the state’s new gender-neutral marriage licenses. And to Bird and Codding, that is unacceptable. “We are traditionalists – we just want to be called bride and groom,” said Bird, 25, who works part time for her father’s church. “Those words have been used for generations and now they just changed them.”

In May, after the California State Supreme Court ruled same-sex marriage legal, the courts mandated state officials to provide gender-neutral licenses and other marriage forms. “Bride” and “groom” became “Party A” and “Party B.”

 

Rachel and Gideon are taking a principled stand. They simply aren’t getting married.

Or, rather, they’ve been married in their church, but aren’t filling out a marriage license. As a result, they can’t get spousal benefits or anything like that. And it’s all the fault of the Homosexualistas! 

Sure, they can call each other “bride” and “groom,” as can their friends, their family, their church, even strangers on the street. But those things aren’t important — the whole meaning of a marriage is, as we all know, all about what’s on that little form you turn into the government.

Rachel Bird described her position as “personal – not religious.”

“We just feel that our rights have been violated,” she said.

Right! The state police come and beat you with bludgeons every time you try to use the term “bride” or “groom,” the bastards! They also burned all your “His” and “Her” towels, insisted that you wear unisex uniforms for the ceremony, and made you flip a coin to determine the content of your marriage vows!

To some, the couple’s stand may seem frivolous. But others believe “bride” and “groom” are terms that are too important for the state to set aside. “Those who support (same-sex marriage) say it has no impact on heterosexuals,” said Brad Dacus of the Pacific Justice Institute. “This debunks that argument.”

Yes, it’s true — same-sex marriage does have a measurable impact on heterosexuals. For one thing, it makes it harder to book a church and a reception hall in June. Also, there’s a chronic shortage of tuxes. And, of course, there’s the Vile, Cruel Insult of a governmental form referring to “Party A” and “Party B.”

I mean, think of it! How would you like to get hitched knowing that, forever, in the eyes of the State of California, you’re on the “B” list while your spouse is on the “A” list? How rude of those selfish Homosexualists to impose their A/B ordering on the population at large!

For now, they are busy with their family (she has two children from a previous marriage and he has three) and starting their new life.

“We feel like a a bride and groom,” said Bird.

 

Not according to the State of California …

(To be fair, I think the terms “Party A” and “Party B” are unaesthetic and clumsy. “Spouse A” and “B” would have been better. Regardless, this seems idiotic, especially given that until this happened, there was a whole class of people who couldn’t — not by choice, but by legal mandate — get married at all. I wish the happy couple above all the best, but, yeesh.)

(via RWW)

Potpourri on a way-too-busy Tuesday

PALINESQUE POLITICS! Executive Experience and More on “Executive” Experience – Having “executive experience” is a lot more (and a lot less) than serving in office in an executive branch. Obama’s demonstrated…

PALINESQUE POLITICS!

  1. Executive Experience and More on “Executive” Experience – Having “executive experience” is a lot more (and a lot less) than serving in office in an executive branch. Obama’s demonstrated executive ability in this very campaign, something I’ve yet to see from Palin’s track record (hiring of lobbyists aside).
  2. Disclosures on Palin Raise Questions on Vetting Process… – Speaking of executive decision-making, the way McCain appears to have handled the whole process — the first decision he gets to make as a proto-president — demonstrates a lack of planning, rash decision-making, and shoot-first-questions-later style of leadership that … is not quite what I think we need today.
  3. Borderline – More obvious sources unexamined before the decision was made.
  4. ABC News Confirms That McCain’s VP Pick Was AIP Member – But remember, John McCain is for America, first!
  5. Atheists’ Worst Nightmares: Sarah Palin, Bananas – It’s so amusing to hear conservative women’s groups slam traditional feminist groups over the Palin nomination, when without the feminists of the 60s and 70s and beyond Palin wouldn’t have made it past being a beauty pageant winner.
  6. George Lakoff: The Palin Choice and the Reality of… – Does the Palin decision make a difference? “Yes, the McCain-Palin ticket is weak on the major realities. But it is strong on the symbolic dimension of politics that Republicans are so good at marketing. Just arguing the realities, the issues, the hard truths should be enough in times this bad, but the political mind and its response to symbolism cannot be ignored. The initial Democratic response to Palin — the response based on realities alone — indicates that many Democrats have not learned the lessons of the Reagan and Bush years.”

POLITICS SANS PALIN!

  1. Report: Gonzales Mishandled Classified Data – washingtonpost.com – Speaking of knee-jerk selections of incompetents with insufficient vetting, no surprise here that not only did Gonzales not keep highly classified data under proper security (i.e., something beyond sitting in his unlocked brief case at home), he couldn’t remember the combo to his house safe.
  2. Protests in Minneapolis [The Corpus Callosum] – Because if you call them “terrorists,” you can do whatever you want, right?

NO POLITICS!

  1. Study Links Gene Variant in Men to Marital Discord… – Genes aren’t destiny … but they can certainly give a behavior nudge.
  2. Shelley, Percy Bysshe – A quote for today on tolerance.
  3. Superman/Aquaman Hour of Adventure, The: Warner Issues… – Hawkman, Bird Man … what’s the diff, y’know? I mean, they’re both, like, comic book guys with feathers.
  4. A fresh take on the browser and Google Chrome, Google’s Browser Project: Do we really need another browser out there? I remain in love with Firefox — but I’m damned tempted to see what Google’s up to with Chrome.

Potpourri of Sad Things

More stuff I’ve been gathering up in the side bar of late. Deserving More Attention: ‘Great Wall of Duh’: It certainly seems like the GOP leadership and political pundits have decided…

More stuff I’ve been gathering up in the side bar of late.

  1. Deserving More Attention: ‘Great Wall of Duh’: It certainly seems like the GOP leadership and political pundits have decided that stupidity and ignorance are far better tactics than intelligence and nuance. Never mind the myriad costs to the country … 
  2. Dispatches from the Culture Wars: Dildos at the Supreme…: Tell me again why a state should be allowed to block the sale of something that it is not illegal to possess? Especially something that doesn’t harm anyone else because it, literally, only, um, affects the owner?
  3. Cenk Uygur: How is John McCain’s Affair Different…: Edwards is no better, no worse, than McCain in this. But I guess McCain’s adultery has gone past the political statute of limitations. Y’know, it’d almost be worth seeing Edward picked as Obama’s running mate, and any time someone brings up his betrayal of his wife, they launch into a laundry list of GOP/Conservatives who’ve done exactly the same thing, with McCain at the top of the queue. Not that it would make it right, but it would make it damned uncomfortable.
  4. Mukasey Refuses To Prosecute Officials Who Politicized…: Well, if they’ve been hurt by “negative publicity” over their breaking of the law, who could have the heart to actually take legal action against them? I mean, let’s not get all “justicey” over them, right?
  5. Oliver Willis: Barack Obama Joins 2.5 Million Fellow…: Yeah, because the guy who married into a massive fortune, is the 4th richest man in the Senate, and has a “compound” to vacation in is less of an elitist than a guy who goes to Hawaii for a vacation.
  6. We’re Not Against Christians; We’re Against Ignorance: If you openly declare that your science textbooks are based on religion not science, and that in any conflict between the two they will present as true what’s in the Bible, then don’t be surprised when your curriculum is not accepted as, well, science.
  7. Guest Columnist – Optimism in Evolution – Op-Ed -…: Along the same note, it is utterly insane that we, in 2008, are still having to argue about the reality of the evolutionary process and why it’s beneficial (not to mention necessary) to teach it in school.
  8. “The Peace of the Gun.”: Another step in the “we’re more than happy to trade off (a little more) liberty for (an unproven amount of) security.” Total curfews? Explaining to the police why you’re out at night? Next thing you know, some guy in a German accent will be asking for your papers, like in the old movies. Of course, given how the mayor of this burg handled the animal shelter problem, it’s not surprising he’s blissfully ignorant of what is or isn’t constitutional. What’s surprising is that people are letting him get away with it.
  9. You Still Can’t Write about Muhammad.: I don’t necessarily think that Random House is being “craven” here — but it is a sad and infuriating situation.
  10. Little League’s Not For Atheists: Sorry — tell me again why Little League has a pledge, and why “belief in God” is a key pledging part of playing baseball? Yeah, sure, it’s an artifact of the 50s/60s, and nobody wants to be the one to edit out God — so why not just get rid of a pledge that nobody actually uses?
  11. Focus Tries to Hide Its “Pray for Rain” Video: What Would Jesus Do? I don’t recall him ordering a rain storm to defeat his political opponents — not even as “a joke.”
  12. Anthrax is in the News, But Which Bacteria Should…: Hmmmmmm … sexy bioweapon that causes Massive Terror Headlines? Or simple disease-resistent bacteria that could kill zillions from a variety of mundane causes? Yeah, guess which one gets all the press time (and research money).
  13. In a Generation, Minorities May Be the U.S. Majority…: Actually this is neither “good” nor “bad,” it just “is.” It will only be “bad” if some folks decide to make a big brouhaha about it. Generally speaking, the more you get angry at demographics, the more they bite you in the butt.

Some enchanted weekend …

So as of tomorrow afternoon (after disposing of a half-day of annoying phonecons and assignments I am gleefully, guiltily, and worriedly fobbing off on my directs), I am off to…

So as of tomorrow afternoon (after disposing of a half-day of annoying phonecons and assignments I am gleefully, guiltily, and worriedly fobbing off on my directs), I am off to San Francisco (via do-you-know-the-way-to San Jose) to spend a conferenceriffic evening with Margie in the City, followed by three nights together up at a hopefully-lovely B&B in Geyserville, enjoying the tastings, food and drink, of the Alexander and Dry Creek Valleys of the California Wine Country.

I expect (promises of WiFi coverage notwithstanding) blogging to be relatively light over the next few days, except for occasional photos.

I have, of course, pre-posted a full vacation’s worth of quotes to WIST, so those who enjoy that sort of thing will find that sort of thing they like over there.

 

Potpourri on a warm Monday night

The Good Font conference – This is just kinda good geeky font-loving fun. Popular boat names – Many boat names are imaginative. These are not. Art to last 10,000 years…

The Good

  1. Font conference – This is just kinda good geeky font-loving fun.
  2. Popular boat names – Many boat names are imaginative. These are not.
  3. Art to last 10,000 years – How do you make art that will last for a hundred centuries? it’s not easy.
  4. 1960s ad for rice – Mmmmm … rice.
  5. Seven Facts About Our Internal Body Clock | Newsweek… – Good to know.
  6. Free Realms: Free Realms – The Best MMO At E3? – Keeping my eyes on this one for Kitten.
  7. Radley Balko: A Few Questions for Barack Obama – As much as I am an Obama supporter, I think these questions are perfectly legit.
  8. Obama on Firewalling Time to Think – On the other hand … fatigue means mistakes, great and small. We can’t afford that with a president.
  9. Freakazoid on DVD — yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes! – Yes!
  10. A Safer Gmail With Https – Seriously considering this.
  11. …because the apocalypse doesn’t have to be lonely. – Hearts! Brains!
  12. PRELUDIUM: All I want for Christmas is two tablets… – I would so accept these as a gift.
  13. The Sarah Jane Adventures DVD news: Announcement for… – I enjoyed the ones of these I watched, and I think Katherine would enjoy them, too. DVD set sounds like a fine idea.

The Bad

  1. Respectful Insolence: Oh no! My cell phone’s going… … to kill you? No, really … it’s not.
  2. The Hoax Photo Database – Always useful to know.
  3. A Tale of Two Press Biases – This actually makes sense. Yes, the McCain camp is correct that Obama gets a lot more press coverage. Yes, the Obama camp is correct that McCain gets pass after pass on his gaffes and inconsistencies.
  4. Fox TV news anchors enjoy plastic coffee – To go with their content-free news.

The Ugly

  1. Elderly woman prohibited from photographing empty… – I feel safer knowing that elderly women photographing empty playgrounds are being forbidden from doing so because they may actually be pedophiles. Yup!
  2. Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell – Of all the stupid policies whose time has come and gone …
  3. Brides demand breast-surgery for their bridesmaids – Mercifully, most bridesmaids are rejecting this particular insanity.
  4. MPAA wants to randomly break your home theater depending… – Because I want Paramount and Sony deciding which pieces of my home theater should be able to interact with their content. Right.
  5. Why is the TSA taking out nipple rings and pantsing… – Why? Because they can.
  6. Report: Former Justice Department officials broke… and Report confirms politicization of the Justice Department. – It’s not so much that there was at least some political bias in the selection of federal prosecutors and immigration judges. I mean, that sort of thing just tends to happen. My objection is that it was so shameless and blatant and stupid, with no pretense as to trying to do the right thing. 
  7. John McCain tries very hard not to answer question… and McCain Caves To Right Wing On Gay Adoption, Says Orphans… – It’s unclear in this coverage whether McCain is trying to maneuver away from an impolitic answer, is trying to pander to too many constituencies, or is just too confused about his own stand on the subject to be coherent. None of these is a good thing.

Life in the Solo Lane

I’ve been the Big Bachelor here at the Consortium since I returned from KOA on Wednesday morning. Margie and Katherine remain in the wilds of upstate Wisconsin until Tuesday night….

I’ve been the Big Bachelor here at the Consortium since I returned from KOA on Wednesday morning. Margie and Katherine remain in the wilds of upstate Wisconsin until Tuesday night.

So how’s it going?

1. Well, I haven’t been eating as healthy as I ought to. I’ve not gone hungry, by any means, and I’ve tried to be sure that there’s something other than chips and ice cream and beer in the diet (see previous mentions of a huge pot of chili, plus some meals with others on a couple of evenings). Not a lifestyle I suspect I would sustain long-term — and short-term it’s palling — so I’ll be glad for Margie to get back

2. Schedule normalcy has been difficult. Between time I took off (Wednesday), and a four-day holiday weekend for the company (including, ha-ha, Monday), things have been a bit odd. I did make it to church this morning, but I didn’t make it to karate on Thursday (dagnabbit). I’ve been staying up late — but not insanely so — but not sleeping past 7 or 8 in the morning (dagnabbit). I look forward to a return to normalcy there almost (but not quite) as much as I look forward to one more day off.

3. My friends have kept me from being a social hermit and only watching DVDs and going out to the movies. Kate and Doyce and Randy came over Friday (nothing says “Fourth of July” as much as sitting around, drinking beer, eating BBQ chicken, and watching Doctor Who on the DVR). Saturday night I went over to Jackie’s for dinner with her folks and Angie (and learned that while D&D players can be kind of geeky and obsessive, they do not hold a candle on cribbage players). Today I was over at Doyce’s for some gaming as well.

4. As I said, I’ve not been sleeping terribly well, though that’s in part due to the cats wanting Extra Love (usually at 5 a.m.) and the heat of the evenings (sleeping atop the sheets until 4 or so, then under the sheets, then getting warm around 7 or so). As is my wont on such occasions, I sleep over on Margie’s side, though I have taken care not to mess up her alarm clock.

5. I’ve not done nearly as much City of Heroes playing as one might imagine. Nor, until today, had I done much blogwise. I have done a few useful projects — getting nearly finished with making sure all our CDs are up-to-date in my iTunes and Margie’s iPod, and getting our hardcover fiction shelves reorganized so that we can actually see what we’ve got.

6. Tomorrow I plan to either do some online gaming, or else work on our digital picture albums. Plus do some clean-up of the house (which, actually, is in remarkably good shape) preparatory to the family’s return on Tuesday evening. I am not sure if I’ll work from home on Tuesday, or go into the office and head out to the airport from there.

7. There are certain devil-may-care, lackadaisical advantages to the bachelor’s life, temporary or not. They do not hold a candle to having my wife and daughter at home with me. An occasional holiday or vacation might be entertaining now and again, just as Margie enjoys going out for sushi when I’m away on business, but more than 2-3 days wears down on one awfully. The courteous inclusion of myself in the weekend plans of my friends has been quite nice (otherwise I’d really be going stir crazy), but …

I’m looking forward to Margie and Katherine being home. ‘Nuff said.

All our bags are packed …

So this evening we head out West for the big family camp-out thang, known colloquially (and sometimes confusingly for the uninitiated) as “KOA” (Kleerup Organized Activity). I’m looking forward to…

So this evening we head out West for the big family camp-out thang, known colloquially (and sometimes confusingly for the uninitiated) as “KOA” (Kleerup Organized Activity). I’m looking forward to it. Blogging will, perforce, be spotty, due to cell phone range issues — though the Flickr-moblogging stuff seems to be working pretty reliably at the moment, so you should get some pictures whenever we’re back in mobile range.

I have preloaded quotes for WIST for the next few weekdays, though.

It’s been a weird, off week at work — a lot of big meetings (another one this morning), a huge assignment I finally finished, grenade-falling-upon, saying good-bye to a long-time colleague and friend back at the old office, finally getting my office arranged the way I want it …

… just in time to be told I’m going to be moving down the hall four or five doors in a couple of weeks. It’s actually a positive move — better furniture, somewhat better location (though still an interior office) — and I’d been told it would be coming, but that didn’t stop me from unpacking everything (since the last “temporary” move lasted six months and would still be going on if I hadn’t shifted downtown).

The collegial farewell was noteworthy as well because (a) I got to successfully test my old “park the car at the Broadway Park-n-Ride and just take the LTR up from there” technique, and (b) I got to finally eat at the Keg by the Colorado Mills, which sat in a plywood-and-tarpaper state for over a year during construction. Good beer, fair nachos.

Weird week at home, too. Katherine’s been doing Vacation Bible School down at church, which means she’s been going later and coming back mid-day than with her normal summer program. That’s meant my working from home a couple of days, including today — both of which days I ended up with badly timed phonecons scheduled day-of. Ugh.

And it’s a lead-in to more off-kilter times. We get down from KOA on Monday afternoon as usual. Tuesday I’m going into the office in California (which, for reasons I can’t say anything about at the moment, turns out to be fortuitous timing), then Wednesday, I come home …

… and Margie and Katherine head off to the wilds of Upstate Wisconsin to do some family bits with Margie’s Aunt Lenora, leaving me as a bachelor until the following Tuesday. Which on the one hand means I could have vast, uninterrupted swaths of time to do all sorts of fascinating projects like redesigning this blog, or catching up on our digital photo albums, or [fill in from long list I’ve already been compiling]. Or … it could mean I simply mope around for a week, lost and depressed, drinking beer and watching TV and playing City of Heroes and staying up too late and missing Margie and Katherine.

We shall see.

Grats!

To all the couples who got married in California today, regardless of the plumbing connections, my most heartfelt congratulations and felicitatios. May you have many, many years of joy…

To all the couples who got married in California today, regardless of the plumbing connections, my most heartfelt congratulations and felicitatios. May you have many, many years of joy and fulfillment.

And to Mathew D. Staver of the Florida-based “Liberty Counsel” who claims that the various ceremonies “make a mockery of marriage” — I do not cede to anyone a greater spiritual and emotional devotion than I have in my own marriage, and, oddly enough, I don’t feel mocked.

All Saints

Margie and I were married at All Saints Episcopal in Pasadena, California. It was not either of our “parish” churches — I was new to being an Episcopalian (and living…

Margie and I were married at All Saints Episcopal in Pasadena, California. It was not either of our “parish” churches — I was new to being an Episcopalian (and living in Colorado), and for Margie it was a matter of various convenience factors. 

All Saints is a large and lovely church, and its congregation is noted as progressive and liberal. For example, they have an open communion rail (not only do you not need to be baptized in the Episcopal Church to receive Communion, you don’t have to be Christian, which meant we could share bread and wine with all of our wedding guests who wanted it). And over the past few years they were involved in (and exonerated from) a big IRS brouhaha over whether they had violated their tax-exempt status by talking about politics.

Now they’re making a splash again: Church to begin same-sex nuptials – Pasadena Star-News 

All Saints Church in Pasadena, one of the largest and most liberal Episcopalian congregations in the country, announced Thursday it will begin performing wedding ceremonies for gay couples starting June 16. In what All Saints Rector the Rev. Ed Bacon called a “historic vote,” church officials adopted the “Resolution on Marriage Equality” unanimously Thursday, after a special meeting of the 3,500-member congregation’s lay leadership.

The church’s action came in response to the California Supreme Court’s May 15 ruling overturning the ban on gay marriage approved by voters in 2000. All Saints has performed blessings for same-sex couples for the past 15 years.

But Bacon described the church vestry’s vote as showing “stirring courage to move beyond lip service” to the church’s commitment to equality by extending marriage rights to gay members. “Today’s decision is consistent with All Saints Church, Pasadena’s identity as a peace and justice church,” Bacon said in a statement Thursday. “It also aligns us with the Scriptures’ mandate to make God’s love tangible by `doing justice and loving mercy’ (Micah 6:8) and with the canons of our Episcopal Church that forbid discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation.”

 

As someone who was married before that same altar, I will state categorically that I do not feel that my own marriage is at all threatened, cheapened, or changed by the decision — except that it means that more loving, mature couples will be able to pledge their commitment to each other before God at the same place, which can only be (to my mind) a good thing.

The Vestry resolution is here.

I approve. And expect this to further fan lots of flames.

(via Father Jake)

I am the very model of a Modern Spiffy Husband

So Boing-Boing ran a story a few days back: 1939 marital rating scale for wives – Boing Boing  George W. Crane, MD, was a marriage counselor and wrote a…

So Boing-Boing ran a story a few days back: 1939 marital rating scale for wives – Boing Boing 

George W. Crane, MD, was a marriage counselor and wrote a syndicated national newspaper column called “The Worry Clinic.” He developed a test in the late 1930s called the Marital Rating Scale — Wife’s Chart.

 

Actually, it turns out (due to someone who quite nicely scanned the whole thing to Flickr) that the test has both a Marital Rating Scale for Husbands and Wives. And while, mebbe, the Wifely Test is a bit more sexist than the Husbandly page, there’s plenty of … um … interesting cultural items in both categories.

One accures wifely demerits on the test for “wears red nail polish,” “wears pajamas while cooking” (or “wears pajamas instead of a nightgown”), “fails to wash top of milk bottle before opening it,” and “insists on driving the car when husband is along.” Hubbies can get demerits for “argues with or curses other rmotorists,” “objects to wife’s driving auto,” or being “angry if newspaper is disarranged.”

The test was based on interviews with 600 husbands and 600 wives, in which they listed “the chief merits and demerits” of their spouses, further weighted by Crane based on “my judgment as a psychologist and physician.” (Commentary from the APA.) And, yes, someone really needs to translate this into an online test.

For what it’s worth, doing it manually, and without going into actual scores, Margie and I both ranked as “Very Superior.” Ahem.

Now, if only she darned my socks and wouldn’t put her cold feet on me at night. *Sigh* At least we scored big-time on the “ardent” and “delighted” “marital congress” questions …

Conversations with one’s spouse

“Yeah, pulmonologists have all the great journals. Chest!” “Yeah, I’ve seen that before on the racks. Though usually it has an opaque wrapper around it.”…

“Yeah, pulmonologists have all the great journals. Chest!”

“Yeah, I’ve seen that before on the racks. Though usually it has an opaque wrapper around it.”

The Marriage Game

Michigan’s voters passed a state constitutional amendment banning gay marriage “or similar union for any purpose.” Because of that, the state supreme court has now ruled that no public agency can…

Michigan’s voters passed a state constitutional amendment banning gay marriage “or similar union for any purpose.” Because of that, the state supreme court has now ruled that no public agency can extend any benefits to domestic partners (e.g., to gay couples, who, of course, cannot get married in Michigan).

The irony is twofold. First, though the amendment was touted by “pro-family” organizations, among those hurt by the ruling are the children living in households of gay couples.   Sorry, not only do we not recognize your adoptive parents as your “real” parents, but you can’t have health insurance, either. A bigger irony is that the “pro-family” folks who proposed and got Amendment 2 pushed through claimed again and again and again that this was not about “benefits,” that beneifts would never be taken away, it was simply about protecting the “M” word from those nassssty gay people.

I wonder if the “Citizens for the Protection of Marriage” can be sued by the couples so affected.

Meanwhile, the Maryland supreme court has ruled that, regardless of Islamic law, a guy can’t summarily divorce his wife by simply repeating “I divorce you” three times – certainly not in order to avoid having to divide up the (in this case sizeable) estate.

Maybe he’ll sue that his freedom of religion is being infringed …

(via Les)

Wordplay

One of the side joys of having a spouse who enjoys wordplay, esp. of the bawdy kind, is that we can be having quite suggestive conversations and repartee without…

One of the side joys of having a spouse who enjoys wordplay, esp. of the bawdy kind, is that we can be having quite suggestive conversations and repartee without our young’un following along.

An eventual follow-up joy is that we’ll be able to embarrass her greatly once she is able to follow along.

Double entendres — the gifts that keep giving.

Potpourri on Arbor Day Eve

Shamos: Why e-voting paper trails are a bad idea | The Iconoclast – politics, law, and technology – CNET News.com – Are e-voting paper trails actually useful, or desirable? I…

  1. Shamos: Why e-voting paper trails are a bad idea | The Iconoclast – politics, law, and technology – CNET News.com – Are e-voting paper trails actually useful, or desirable? I think what the whole e-voting thang has raised is how secure (or insecure) our voting process is, and what risks we need to take (and which we need to work on reducing).
  2. When the Ex Blogs, the Dirtiest Laundry Is Aired – New York Times – I don’t know if it’s a good thing, or a bad thing, that my divorce from Cheryl was in pre-blogging days.
  3. The Superman/Aquaman Hour of Adventure DVD news: Announcement for DC Super Heroes: The Filmation Adventures | TVShowsOnDVD.com – This makes me sooooooo happy! The SAHoA was dearly beloved by me as a child — esp. for all the non-Superman/Aquaman bits, which is what this DVD set will collect. Glee!
  4. BMWSportTouring Forums: Space Shuttle Processing: Rarely seen by the general public – How to assemble a space shuttle for lauch. Cool. (via GeekPress)
  5. The Art of the Title Sequence – This looks like an extraordinarily cool site, looking at TV/movie title sequence. Pretty. (via kottke)

Lucky Thirteen

Yes, it’s been thirteen years since Abraham Lincoln married the most wonderful woman in the world. Oh, wait, that’s me, not Abe. But Margie’s still just as wonderful, if not…

Yes, it’s been thirteen years since Abraham Lincoln married the most wonderful woman in the world. Oh, wait, that’s me, not Abe. But Margie’s still just as wonderful, if not moreso.

In time the Rockies may crumble,
Gibraltar may tumble,
They’re only made of clay.
Our love is here to stay.
 

Happy Anniversary, my love.

A scrap of dialog over a belated Valentine’s Day Dinner

DAVE: You do know that I love your mother madly and passionately. Little hearts circle my head whenever I look at her. KATHERINE: Hmmmmm, let me see …. YEAH.” [For…

DAVE: You do know that I love your mother madly and passionately. Little hearts circle my head whenever I look at her.

KATHERINE: Hmmmmm, let me see …. YEAH.” [For “YEAH” substitute an emphatic “DUH” to properly capture the inflection and tone.]

Do something different with your Valentine lovey

Various studies indicate that while it’s a good thing to have “date nights” with your spouse, it’s an even better thing to have “date nights” doing something new. The theory…

Various studies indicate that while it’s a good thing to have “date nights” with your spouse, it’s an even better thing to have “date nights” doing something new.

The theory is based on brain science. New experiences activate the brain’s reward system, flooding it with dopamine and norepinephrine. These are the same brain circuits that are ignited in early romantic love, a time of exhilaration and obsessive thoughts about a new partner. (They are also the brain chemicals involved in drug addiction and obsessive-compulsive disorder.)

Most studies of love and marriage show that the decline of romantic love over time is inevitable. The butterflies of early romance quickly flutter away and are replaced by familiar, predictable feelings of long-term attachment.

But several experiments show that novelty — simply doing new things together as a couple — may help bring the butterflies back, recreating the chemical surges of early courtship.

Various experiments that, at least in the short term, doing non-typical or novel things on a regular basis on with the other half of your couple seemed to increase the perceived quality of the relationship.

Dr. Aron cautions that novelty alone is probably not enough to save a marriage in crisis. But for couples who have a reasonably good but slightly dull relationship, novelty may help reignite old sparks.

Not that all relationships are doomed to ennui over the short haul. Aside from anecdotal evidence (say, Margie and me), there’s some neurological proof:

And recent brain-scan studies show that romantic love really can last years into a marriage. Last week, at the Society for Personality and Social Psychology conference in Albuquerque, researchers presented brain-scan data on several men and women who had been married for 10 or more years. Interviews and questionnaires suggested they were still intensely in love with their partners. Brain scans confirmed it, showing increased brain activity associated with romantic love when the subjects saw pictures of their spouses.

It’s not clear why some couples are able to maintain romantic intensity even after years together. But the scientists believe regular injections of novelty and excitement most likely play a role.

“You don’t have to swing from the chandeliers,” Dr. Fisher said. “Just go to a new part of a town, take a drive in the country or better yet, don’t make plans, and see what happens to you.”

Which is kind of funny, because it’s not like I’m the swinging-from-the-chandeliers type. But, apparently, however it is that Margie keeps things new and interesting around here, it’s working fine.

Age cannot wither her, nor custom stale
Her infinite variety
 

But

Remember: It’s only kinky the first time. 

Happy Valentines Day, love.

Say it with candy

  Happy Valentines Day! (via the ever-popular Acme Heart Maker) …

 

Happy Valentines Day!

(via the ever-popular Acme Heart Maker)